Why does God cause suffering?

April 24, 2012

When it rains, it pours. We are all too familiar with that saying.
The closing of 2011 was a tough one for the Kinch household as well as close family around us.
We lost someone so dear to our hearts; it still effects me unexpectedly today.

I also lost one of my best friends my Senior year of high school.
Talk about struggles.
Man, I thought I'd never be myself again.
I took my anger out towards God and wanted nothing to do with him.
Why would he condemned me to such suffering?
Did I disobey? Did I stray from loving him? Did I deserve the pain my heart felt?

Our series at church right now is "unchristian".
Sunday we talked about why God causes suffering.
Why do Christians constantly say--
"it wasn't meant to be"
"it wasn't part of God's plan"
"if it's meant to happen, it will happen"
"it was the will of the Lord"
That's not correct.
God does not sit in Heaven planning out who is going to run that red light causing a child to die, planning this man will get cancer and pass a short 6 months later, planning these new parents will suffer a miscarriage, planning this high schooler will overdose.

No. That's not in God's heart.
When my best friend died all I blamed was the Lord. It was his fault for causing this pain.
But did he really plan for that bus to run off the road killing 8 of the passengers??
Absolutely not.

Our Father loves each and every one of us. He is standing along side us rooting for us and struggling when we struggle. Weeping when we weep. It's those moments in life you need the Lord the most to carry your weight. To comfort you in time of need. His heart breaks when our heart breaks.

This song gets me everytime.

& The Book of Job; I encourage you to read it.


  1. I'm going through the same thing right now. I'm dealing with something almost impossible to talk about, and I just want to keep blaming God. I keep seeing him showing off in other people's lives and I just want to see Him work miracles for me. It's hard, that's for sure. So sorry to hear about your friend, those pictures were just unreal. Praying for you!

  2. Thanks for posting this. I lost my mom 8 months ago and while my faith is firm I still found it hard to not question God. I know better than to question him but I did it anyway. I'm new to the blog world and I'm blown away by how many people I've come across who post stuff like this. I'm seeing more uplifting things on here than I did the entire time I was going through my moms death. It's something special, for sure. So thank you for sharing.

  3. Praying for you sweet girl! I went through this at the early age of 13. Talk about confusion! I do believe that it's in God's best interest to allow the tough things in life to enable us to focus on Him and what truly matters in life; love, trust, kindness, family, friendships,etc. You will get through this. It took me 6 months to stop crying every single day. It does get better. I am always here if you need me.

    Melissa from Grin and Barrett

  4. Thank you for this post :) It's all too easy to blame God for our hardships, but I love your outlook! Just found your blog from along the way with rae. Love it :)

  5. I have gone through similar things in 2011/2012 too Aubrey. My grandpa passed away after a long fight with cancer, and my 19 year old cousin was diagnosed with leukemia recently (so soon after grandpa passing). It's events like this that I felt have brought me closer to God though, it was a time when I was saying why us, why my family, and I needed to ask for help from someone bigger than me. I needed to trust in somebody that in the end, everything would be okay. My cousin is fighting hard and I am praying he makes it through all of this. All we can do sometimes is ask God for help, even though it's so easy to blame Him.