Nope, I'm not ready for a baby.

March 13, 2012

Andrew and I married October 1, 2010.
I was ready for a baby that night.

The first 6 months of our marriage it was constant talking about when we could have babies.
I was a nanny, loving it and ready for my own.
I had a step-son and wanted him to share love of a sibling.
I was ready to be a mom and wife to my family.
We decided we would evaluate where we were financially, spiritually, physically, emotionally 2 years into our marriage and consider that being the time to expand.

Here we are 1.5 years into our marriage and we are NOT expanding our home for a while.
We get asked the question all the time.
"So when will you guys have kids?"

Our answer?
We will evaluate where we are in another few years.
We still feel like newly weds; we're still learning and developing our relationship together.
We are the couple that wants to enjoy the little moments in front of us.
We want to travel.
We want to go out for Happy Hour.
We want to sleep in every chance we have.

I said on Twitter a few days back--
"It's safe to say my husband has a firm grip on my heart; love grows some deep roots!"
I am excited to see those roots grow deeper in our relationship before we throw more chaos into the mix.

We find it hard enough now finding a sitter for our dog so what's it going to be like when we have our own child together and needing to recreate our lifestyle?

We look forward to building our family together.
We are anxious to see the relationship Drake will have with a silbling.
We know God will bless us with our own miracle when the timing is right.
When the timing is meant to be.

I truly believe no one can be completely ready to welcome a little one into the world.
You can never be fully stable in your life and ready.
At least I know I'll never be!
[you're lying if you think you are 100% ready to take someones life into your hands(!!)]

You don't know what it'll be like having sleepless nights.
You don't know the stress financially you'll be taking on.
You don't know the amount of responsibility that comes tied in a neat bow around your babies little life.
But whenever you're blessed with that milestone-- it'll be right.

It'll be in God's timing and he will be there to provide strength and reassurance throughout the challenges.

Right now Andrew and I enjoy being parents to a 6 year old.
We are embracing being an Uncle and Aunt.
We are excited for what our future brings....in a few years that is.
Or more.
:)

12 comments

  1. Great post! While I am not married, we have been together for nearly 6 years and bought a house a couple of years ago, so it's like we are married. We constantly get asked if we're going to have kids, and I just don't see myself doing that right now!

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  2. that was the way it was with us ... i thought that when our 2 year mark came we would be ready ... well that mark came and went and we were/are still not ready. life changes so much with a baby. we'll be ready to have children someday. but not today.

    great post! :)

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  3. I love this, Aubrey! I feel JUST the same - only 6 months post marriage. Last year at this time I was set up with my doctor, taking vitamins, planning to hopefully get pregnant ON our honeymoon. A couple of months passed and we were hit with... no more pillow talk or TV dates - no more seflishness. We checked out of the want for parenthood immediately to happen & I am very happy we did. The 6 months of JUST US has really been awesome.

    I love what you said about still learning and developing. I highly believe in this & believe it's a good thing to plant your roots, let them grow & with time comes a beautiful tree.

    REALLY loved this post! It's so good.

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  4. Great post! I'm sure a lot of people out there agree with you! I have a 9 year old already and I wasn't ready for a baby until just recently when I experienced a miscarriage and it devastated me. I'm only 24 but I've realized I've had so much fun being a young Mommy to my 9 year old that I want to make sure I'm still young when I have my 2nd child. Everyone is different though and only you will know when the time is right!

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  5. Amen... THats all I have to say

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  6. I feel the same as you!! And we have a hard time planning vacations because of our dog too! :) A dog is enough of a "baby" for now!

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  7. AMEN sister! I here that questin I million times a week! It will be great when the time comes, but not right now :]

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  8. Enjoy your time together as a couple!! It's worth the wait :)

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  9. When the time is right you'll know!! PS O M G does it freak you out that your dad reads your blog!?!?! I saw he commented on your tattoos post!!! eeek! :)

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    1. Haha! Not at all, I know he does.... I actually send him a lot of links. We get along really well! :) & he was just being a smart ass with his comment yesterday!

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  10. I love this post! Since my fiance and I got engaged a MONTH AGO we ave had people non-stop asking us, "when are you starting your family." Wait, what? are you guys for real?! We just got engaged! We definitely want a family, but we will never get to be newly weds ever again. We have a life time of being parents. Let us enjoy this stage... Please?!

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  11. well whenever that day comes, you guys are gonna have the cutest kids!!

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